For anyone who thinks workplace is a professional environment and there is no room for personal relationships, please understand the basic fabric of humanity stems from the need to socialize. So it does not help us much to keep people at a distance and hence be seen as an unapproachable person. It neither works for us, nor the people around us.
There are many advantages of having “good” friends at workplace,
- We have a person to fall back on during times of frustration. A good friend will not ask for the source of frustration but will only listen to what we have to say.
- We have a person on whom we can test our pet projects and ideas on before taking it to the next level. We can do role plays to ensure we have the basics in place before talking about our ideas in larger forums. One level of feedback over!!!
There are many more, but let me stop with these two for now. Any comments on what I missed are most welcome.
On the flip side, I guess we also need to be prepared to deal with disappointments in relationships at workplace since there are more chances for that, than anywhere else.
- Notwithstanding all great talk otherwise, professional recognition, roles and money are the most important things at workplace. So if “friends” start behaving strangely after a few changes, its ok, I guess we have all seen this with our relatives, and also experienced many relatives accusing us of the same. (This is more specific to eastern cultures than the western counterparts).
- Role models change with roles. And it’s natural for people to behave like their role models. This could result in clashes of ideology but it’s good to remember people are liable for opinions in a democracy, and the responsibility lies on us to ensure no ugly scenes are created due to this change.
Again, I can list a lot more, but let me stop here and as always, will be open to comments to add on to this.
There are numerous materials that talk about how best things can be worked out and how to get things back on track, but personally, I feel the best thing to do sometimes could be just letting it go.
The bottom line is, it’s very important to have friends at workplace. I also feel it is equally important to let go of a few at workplace.